Perfectionism Is Taught

Here is what some of these can look like:

🚫 Never Saying No: When we can’t say no, we end up overcommitting and stretching ourselves too thin. It's essential to set boundaries to protect our mental and physical health.

🛌 Not Allowing Time to Heal: Ignoring the need for rest and recovery when ill leads to more significant health problems. Prioritize your health; it’s the foundation for everything else. You truly cannot buy health, so cherish it.

😔 Judging Ourselves for Resting: Rest is not a luxury; it’s a necessity. Judging ourselves for taking a break only leads to burnout. Remember, you don’t need to “deserve” rest – you inherently do.

🙋‍♂️ Never Asking for Help: Asking for help isn’t a sign of weakness. We’re not meant to handle everything alone. Seeking support can make us stronger, although you may need to be mindful of who will help and who will reinforce your old paradigms about only being able to rely on yourself.

🎭 Living Up to Everyone’s Expectations: Trying to meet everyone’s expectations is impossible and draining. Focus on what aligns with your values and brings you joy.

💼 Working the Longest and Accomplishing the Most: Overworking is not a badge of honour. It’s a path to chronic stress and health issues. Balance is key to sustainable success and happiness.

😨 Fear of Mistakes: Mistakes are part of growth. They teach us valuable lessons and make us more resilient. Don’t let the fear of making mistakes paralyze you and stop you from trying.

🌍 Carrying the World’s Weight: You are not responsible for solving all problems or managing others' emotions. Learn to let go and take care of your own well-being first.

💔 Judging Yourself for “Weakness”: Showing vulnerability, being tired or ill, needing help, crying, feeling emotions - these are not weaknesses. Chances are that you are much harsher and more demanding with yourself than with anyone else. Embrace your humaneness and treat yourself with the same compassion you’d offer a friend.

✨ You Are Enough: Remember, you are enough just as you are. It is not your fault that you have been taught to feel like you weren’t, and you can change your mindset, changing your life in the process.